i cant remember what the flick was called, but it was about some dentist, and in his colleague's room, there was a poster about ghandi saying the wise words of 'only a life lived for others is worth living', and immediately i felt so small because that sentence is just so powerful and profound.

it went against everything i ever believed. i always had the generation y thinking, you know, you only have one life so do what you want as long as you try not to hurt anyone etc etc etc
but maybe i am just oh so wrong and selfish. maybe that's why i am contented with my life but not wholly satisfied.

yet, if i were to ask myself honestly,if i were to do what the sentence says, i doubt i can do it, or rather i doubt i want to do it.

i truly admire selfless people. how on earth do u put aside ur own desires and put others' wants before yours?
( slightly random, but i have the same admiration for professions such as nurses. their dedication to their job amazes me)

anyway back to the topic. for myself, i think if i make some sort of sacrifice, instead of feeling pleased that i made someone else's life more comfy for a little while, i get all grumpy and resentful. and that is horrible. at least i recognise the problem now, all thanks to a chick flick show.

to sum it up, i must be more... good. excuse the awful grammar, but i cant think of any other way to put it.
yups, i have approx 2 more months before santa comes to town.

i used to have this friend, used being the operative word.
maybe i judged too quick, and maybe she went a little overboard, but the reasons dont matter now except that all i have left of this friend are strange nostalgic dreams which leave me feeling a tad sentimental which in turn makes me highly impatient with myself.

i realise that as time goes by, many of us grow apart. none of us are truly right or wrong, but our paths just lead us away from each other. i used to - albeit naively- think of those oh so strong bonds that can keep a relationship together no matter the differences etc etc etc but perhaps that is just some form of security thinking we instill in us.

a wise one once said friendship is about accepting the person as she is. it made me feel quite ashamed because i was/am always too quick to point out all the mistakes without maybe giving it a chance to think that maybe the problem may lie with my inadequate tolerance level for all things abnormal from my current life.

but the sad truth of life is that the footsteps we have in each others' lives may last only if we are walking together. and any straying means you might be left behind. especially if you dont make an effort to keep up, or i dont make an effort to slow down.

sigh. does everything in life require work?? i thought it's things like friendship or families that keep you sane from the everyday hectic working life.
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today is the 25th of october. once upon a time a boy was born and grew up to be my dad. happy birthday daddy wherever you are.

wow, it has been sometime since i visited this space.

was sick recently, one of the worst bouts of flu ever. high temperatures, aches down to the weary bone. i was busy in bed for many days just feeling sorry for myself.
thankfully, it wasnt dengue like they first suspected, and yes, it is all over. no more medicine, more more drowsiness.
i guess the one good thing that came out is the loss of appetite which hasnt returned. good time to diet!

received the john lennon pen as a gift from the dragon the other day. whee! i am so happy. i remember when it first came out, i spent ages on the internet just ogling at it. and now it's mine! the last one in store too. ;)

had a couple of disappointments lately regarding holiday plans ( or rather failed holiday plans) due to visa problems but oh well. i have come to terms that it's not the destination that you go to, but the company, and there are always other opportunities.
so for now, it's sunny singapore.

on another note, upon hindsight, i think i really do not care so much. do you get that? i really dont. because i am happy with my life right now thank you very much for asking. not that you do actually ask, but there are bigger things to worry about, and other things that make me happy.