" maybe some people arent meant to stay in your lives forever. it's like, they came for a reason. they are just passing through to bring us something; a gift, or a lesson we need to learn. dont be dismayed at goodbyes, for a farewell is necessary before meeting again, and that is certain for those who are friends."



ok not very profound, but very sickening how some phrases just leap right at you and practically shout in your ear and force u to relate to it.



okok i get it already. gift taken, lesson learnt and goodbye.

the sanctimony of marriage.

so i read this chick lit book, where the heroine of the story is commandered to do a feature article of why she got married. instead of the usual i was so in love etc etc etc etc etc, she said she married him just to get over someone else. or in other words rebound. or maybe in the more familiar singapore context, spare tyre.
and i was quite horrified at my reaction which is - horrified. i mean, it's fiction for crying out loud. no need to cry out loud right!
if i didnt know better, i would have thought i was pregnant- my hormones being all over e place. hur.

anyway i thought that was really sad. ( but you dont have to sympathise with the groom because he turned out to be a total cheating bastard)
well it got me thinking that ideally we meet soulmates but realistically a lot of us do use ( and i use this word really loosely here) someone else to get over someone.
and that someone whom u are trying to get over isnt necessary your soulmate or star crossed lover who has been forced apart by well, forces.

anyway the heroine of the story said it was wrong from the very start. and i couldnt help thinking, if all of us didnt apply the spare tyre theory, the governments had better all start worrying cause you're gonna have more singles than doubles and no babies. ( that is if we apply the notion that we all should be married before having a baby etc etc etc )

ok i might sound a bit impatient. maybe im getting defensive. because spare tyres arent all that bad. and sometimes they are better than the old one, and it works just fine.

randoms



so , the year of the tiger is upon us and we're in the midst of the angpow season. i have to say the year has revealed more pussies than big prancing fierce macho cats.

well so far at least.



i thought i had seen it all, but how ignorant i was.

the above sentence applies to people met and places gone to recently.

it was such an eye opener.



made some new friends, some of them having potential to be for keeps.

although sometimes i think maybe i shouldnt talk to you too much because it keeps reminding me of her and sometimes i wince a little at memories and get a bit maudlin about all the jazz about how it might have been and all that shit but i always manage to knock sense in my head so it's all good at the end of the day.



well, looking forward to tonight's annual steamboat dinner with my favourite people in the world.

Perhaps god plants His signs everywhere but we choose to ignore because it is easier to do so, or one does not have the courage to face up to truths staring right at us.
What else do we have left but those around us? Are we not taught to cherish?

on another note, I am so tired of incompetent people. Unreliable people who have e indecency to collect a salary but do not take pride in seeing to their responsibilities.
People who bring out the rude and stroppy side of me, which in turns lead to so much unpleasantness all around.
Is the key to life really learning how to be tolerant and be forgiving of others' faults?
I always thought it was about upgrading oneself, not in terms of climbing the career ladder, but learning and trying to become a better person. A more disciplined person.
I think in that journey, I have reduced my patience level.

But how to be patient to some nincompoops !!!

I seem to be surrounded by them lately. Maybe I am one myself, takes one to know one right. Haha
But hey, I can live with myself.

And I'd rather be my type of nincompoop than their type of nincompoop !


Ah !
Save me.

Dear Blog,

whew! it's been some time since i last visited you. ive been really busy lately, and thoughts too jumbled up to note them now.
ive had a few insprirations, where i blogged in my head, but then something will crop up and i will forget my wonderful entry.
so, i miss you, but i'll be back soon!

love jem