"we all have our own sets of thinking. everyone's thinking is different. your thinking may make sense and are reasonable, but you also need to give people time to change.

it's like how some people litter. they know that littering is wrong, yet they still do it everyday. and you're someone who hates littering. so when they litter, you scold and lecture them. but to them, it's only littering. they need time to get rid of that habit. but there's no reason for you to lose your temper. "

my angry reply.
but underneath that anger, is frustration. it's almost a wretched kind of sadness. because they littered in my home. do they not have that basic respect for me, that i have to get show anger before they pick up the litter. i dont understand why i have to teach them. shouldnt they already know?

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great litter analogy.

but it made me pause to think about those words above someone said to me. and for a rare time, allowed those thoughts to contradict what i previously believed all along.

i realise that sometimes littering isnt such a big thing. and sometimes we over react. and sometimes, we have a right to get angry, but not a right to overstep that anger. which is what i am guilty of doing at times. ok fine many times.
i have my own rules and principles, and boy, am i ever stubborn. but there are times when really, the other person might be in the wrong, but that doesnt necessarily make you a right either.

should i really scold all the one who throws the rubbish all the time? isnt it better that i help them kick the habit, and instead of resenting picking up all the rubbish, request for their help in picking up what they have thrown.

the soft approach.

continual learning.

i'll remember that. i'll figure it out.