love takes the blame when a relationship doesnt work out. or more accurately, lack of love.
' you dont love me enough to............'

common accusation.

poor love.

is it really love's fault?

let's not go into that roundabout debate on what love is.

let's talk about infedelity! there's just some discussion going on at the moment so yeah..

infedelity in general. let's uh.. leave me out of this at the moment.

how would you react if your partner cheated on you?

ok let's make this easier. cheating as in physical. not mentally cheating, cause like attraction or thinking about someone else is cheating too right? and let's face it, i dont think absolute monogamy really exists.

ok well that's what i think anyway. you can differ, up to you.

so back to the question.

would you forgive him?

people asks 'do you love him enough to forgive him?'
and if you dont forgive him, oh no! you dont love him enough. and why should you ever be made out to be the guilty party????

forgiveness is a very big issue. think about all the people in this world who needs to be forgiven. leave out relationships at the moment.
think about the one who drank and drove and killed a child.
or the one who accidentally hit someone.
or the murderer in a crime of passion.

the affected ones, they need to forgive right? and obviously you cant use the theory of 'love them and forgive them'
it's more of finding a conclusion to the internal bitterness and letting go. nothing to do with love of the other person right?

so isnt it similar?

ok granted, it's different somewhat.
but you cant blackmail love and push the responsibility to love. not fair isnt it.

forgiveness depends on many factors. and maybe love is just a portion but not everything.

SO. would you forgive?

interestingly, there's an Infedelity Anonymous Support group. not in spore. think it's in the us. but anyway what i found a little amusing was that they said 'whatever your role in the love triangle, there's a group format for you!'

haha i think it was the usage of the words love triangle. so apt. well.. at least it's not square...

oh yes and tt reminds me.

-edited-
JEM: they played retro that night.
GEN: retro?? oh yeah.. what's that song... SQUARE ROOF!
JEM: square roof??? er.. no! sqaure ROOM!
GEN: oh.. sorry la.. im a nerd la..
JEM: then luckily you never say square root...

ps: gen? nerd? ......... yeah... and so am i. ;p